6 COMPELLING REASONS TO SPEND SOME TIME ALONE 給自己6個獨處的理由

6 Compelling Reasons To Spend Some Time Alone
給自己6個獨處的理由By Lesley Vos

“There are times when alone is the best place to be.” ~Unknown
“有時候,你最應該做的事該是-獨處“ ~ 無名

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Some people think it’s awful to spend time alone—that it means you’re antisocial or no one needs you.Some people feel sad and lonely when they don’t have company every evening or weekend.But being alone doesn’t mean that no one needs you. And it can actually be quite useful to take some time to yourself.
有些人認為獨自一人是件奇怪的事,認為獨自一個代表你是一個生活圈子狹窄 、 沒有朋有的人;有些人什至會因為沒有朋人相伴而感到寂寞和孤單。其實獨處的時間,反而是一個最佳的機會去認識自己。

I am almost thirty. This is an age when you start to rethink your whole life, trying to understand what you should change or improve, what you should do next, and what specifically you need in your life.I felt this way a couple of months ago.I thought I’d achieved nothing in my almost thirty years, and I felt I should have changed something but couldn’t figure out what or how.
我快踏入30歲(本文作者),這個年紀令我開始反思自己的人生,思考自己的人生計晝,認真地去想想自己想要什麼。經歷了數個月的反思,我發現自己這30年來並沒有什麼成就,我知道自己需要一些改變,然而卻不知道該如何實行。

I had to cope with my feelings, but the everyday chaos of my life didn’t allow me time to concentrate on myself.The decision came like a bolt from the blue—to spend some time completely alone.When you’re alone, nothing prevents you from listening to your inner voice, heart, and mind.
我知道我需要面對這種想法,然而生活在每一天的忙碌當中,我根來無法集中去靜思並處理自己的問題。為了正視自己的內在聲音,我決定安排一段完全獨處的時間給自己,專注地去聆聽自己的內在想法。

Here are a few other benefits of spending time in solitude.
以下是數個獨處帶來的好處

1. It’s a great opportunity to recharge.
這是一個為自己補充精神能量的好機會

We often try to make people around us happy and help them work through their feelings. This can be emotionally draining.
在日常生活中,我們經常為了令身邊的人快樂、為他們分擔憂慮,造成自己心靈上的疲累。

For example, I have one friend who lives abroad, who comes online to talk to me only when she feels bad and wants to share all her problems with me. It takes a lot of energy and makes me sad and frustrated.
以我為例,我有一位長居外地的朋友,每一次情緒低落或生活不順時,便會透過互聯網找我傾訴。每一次對談後,我的大部分能量亦會隨之而流失,對我來說也是一個十分疲累的事。

Time spent alone helped me take a break from constant interaction with other people so I could recharge.
為自己預留獨處的時間可以讓我有一個休息的空間,暫停與外界聯絡,好好為自己補充精神能量。

2. It’s a good time to think and reflect.
這是一個思考和反思的時間

Life moves at a crazy speed. It doesn’t often give us time to stop and reflect. When alone, you have a great opportunity to focus on yourself.
每天的日子都活像走馬燈,時光飛快地消逝,總是沒有時間讓我們停下來反思。當你能為自己預留獨處的時間,你便可以好地專注於自己。

Thanks to my voluntary solitude, I had a chance to question whether I was moving in the right direction, I’ve realized what I should change in my life, and I’ve finally found time to relax and meditate.
正正因為有了這個獨處的時間,我終於有機會去思索自己的人生是否走在正確的方向。我知道自己需要改變自己的人生,為自己安排放鬆和靈修的時間。

3. It’s a chance to understand what really makes you happy.
這是一個尋找自我快樂的機會。

When you spend time with other people, you often have to make compromises. There’s always a chance that what you want may not coincide with others’ wishes. When you’re alone, it’s only you who decides what to do.
當你和別人共處的時候,很多時候你都需要選擇妥協於別人的喜好,漸漸地,你便會忘卻自已真正喜歡的是什麼。但當你獨自一人的時候,你便可以隨自己的喜好去選擇做喜歡的事。

Do you want to spend the whole day lying on the beach? Go! Do you want to visit that contemporary art exhibition? There’s no reason to skip it. As for me, I’ve finally visited the city of my dreams, Prague. None of my friends ever had the time, money, or desire to go with me, but that no longer mattered.
你可想懶洋洋地敞在沙灘上?你可想參觀藝術館?想做就去做吧!根本沒有不去的理由!當我開始享受獨處,我一個人到訪了夢寐以求的布拉格,不需要別人陪伴,就自己一個。

4. It makes you more productive.
獨處令你更專注於自己想做的事。

It can be fun and exciting to spend time with friends, but it can also distract you from things that are important to you, like exercise, hobbies, a long-delayed book, and unfinished work.
與朋友共聚盡然快樂,但卻會令你失去了對你自身重要事的專注。試想想你有多久沒有去運動?多久沒有培養自己的興趣?多久沒有完成自己喜歡的書?

Spending some time alone can be a good opportunity to make progress toward your personal goals.
當你把時間安排給自己,你便有機會去完成自己設立的目標。

5. It makes you more self-reliant.
你會變得更獨立。

We often seek approval from friends, colleagues, and family members before we take action or make a decision. There are times when it’s necessary to do this, but there are also times when it’s possible to act without consulting others first.
日常生活和工作上,我們經常要聽從朋友、同事和家人的意見和看法,事實我們並不需要事事向他們聽取意見。

When you’re alone, you’ll learn how to make decisions without anyone’s help. This was difficult for me at first, but in time I become more self-reliant.
當你習慣獨處時,你便會開始懂得獨立地作決定,慢慢變得獨立起來。

6. It teaches you to value people who are close to you.
獨處令你更尊重和重視身邊的人。

When you regularly take time for yourself, it becomes even more enjoyable to engage with others, as you’ve given yourself time and space to miss their company.
當你適度地給予自己私人空間,你反而會更享受和他人並聚的時刻。在獨處的同時你會更思念家人、朋人和情人,見面的時候反而倍增歡悅。

Don’t be afraid of being alone. Very often it helps us understand who we are, what we want, and what we can do to become better people.
獨處並非你想像中般可怕,卻反能讓你更了解自己、清楚自己的喜好、令自已變成更好的人。

Source : http://tinybuddha.com/blog/6-compelling-reasons-spend-time-alone/

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